My side of the story…

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I wasn’t sure I wanted to write this post. First, I’m not sure that it’s everyone’s business… I don’t mean that in a rude way, I just feel that, at the moment, this is really intensely between three different parties. I’m not saying that everyone else doesn’t have a reason to be concerned and, well, afraid, but there’s a reason the main parties haven’t thrown themselves head first into the drama. Second, I don’t do drama. Sure, I’m advocating it at the moment, but I really don’t want to be pulled into the mess anymore than possible. But I’ve been receiving a lot of emails, direct messages, and tweets on Twitter from close blogger friends showing their support for both myself and Blythe and also letting me know that our community really wants to know what the heck is going on.

 

First off, I’ll start out by letting everyone know that I’m the one who gave KH Blythe’s mailing address. It’s not a secret nor something I thought I would ever have to be ashamed of. Why? Because I received Blythe’s permission to give it to KH.

 

This all started because of the 2014 debut authors bash. If you’re not familiar with it, it’s a big event that YaReads hosts each year since 2013 where we gather up all the debut authors and pair them with other bloggers. During sign ups, we ask the authors if they have a specific blogger that they would like to work with. This is not a requirement. We are more than willing to randomly pair bloggers and authors. In fact, that’s what most of the authors choose to do. In this case, though, KH specifically requested Blythe as her blogger host.

 

Now, I mentioned I don’t do drama, right? So, I had no idea that KH was previously engaged in some blogger scandal. I still don’t really know that much about it because I don’t care enough to look it up and ask around. Well, as soon as I emailed Blythe about it she seemed a little confused. She was willing to host KH for the Bash, but she didn’t really understand why KH wanted to be paired with her since she didn’t like her book. So, I emailed KH about it and she informed me that she knew that Blythe didn’t like her book and that’s exactly why she wanted to be paired with her. She also wanted to talk about the previous controversy in the interview they were to do together. Blythe agreed and everything was set for them to be paired together for the Bash.

Let me back track a second since this seems to be the super important part. When KH requested Blythe as her blogger, she also asked me to get Blythe’s mailing address for her because she wanted to send her a gift for hosting her for the Bash. I sent Blythe an email and she seemed super excited and gave me her permission to pass on her mailing address to KH. It seemed safe and simple. I read in KH’s article that she was requested to donate some signed books and that’s why she wanted Blythe’s mailing address. When we send invitations out to the debut authors we give them a set of questions. One of those questions is whether or not they will be hosting a giveaway for the event and if it will be open to US, US & CAN, or INT. We never ask any of the authors to host a giveaway nor do we ask them to donate specific prizes. If they have questions about the giveaway we answer them, but that is completely up to them. Most of the authors chose to do a giveaway this year, but we did have quite a few who did not host one.

As we started to get closer to deadlines for the Bash, it was becoming slightly difficult to get ahold of Blythe about the interview. KH emailed me a few times and it was obvious that she was a bit frustrated that Blythe wasn’t communicating with her. At one point she said that it was starting to get a bit ridiculous but nothing exceeded mild annoyance. I remember that she requested a phone interview or a video chat between her and Blythe, but Blythe wasn’t interested in either of those. Eventually, I asked Blythe if she needed to be removed from the tour and we agreed that would be the best option since she was having some family issues going on and she would soon be traveling to Europe. It really wasn’t a big deal. We changed KH’s blogger to someone else that she wanted and I thought that was that.

I remember that KH had emailed me asking if Blythe sent me the correct mailing address because it was under someone else’s name. Of course, me not being very attentive, didn’t put two and two together that it was weird that she knew that. I’m not very savvy online, so I just figured that she went to put it on some post office site and it came back weird. That sounds stupid now, huh? I think I emailed Blythe about it, but I can’t remember that whole conversation and don’t want to put words in anyone’s mouth. Later on, KH emailed me asking what to do with the gift she was going to send Blythe. I thought that was a little strange since I thought she had already sent it to her. I let it go, though, and just told her to hold onto it or give it to her new blogger….whatever she wanted to do with it, really.

Honestly, that seemed to be the extent of it. KH emailed me a few weeks ago asking me if YaReads stood for another blog. I remember I was slightly offended because we’re a pretty well known blog, not to mention that I worked my butt off on the 2014 debut authors bash all by myself, but I politely let her know that nope…we’re YaReads!

Other than that, I haven’t talked to KH or Blythe since we hooked up KH with another blogger. The last connection I had with Blythe was my email to her letting her know that we replaced her with another blogger for the 2014 debut authors bash. I didn’t even know about KH’s article until a day after it posted…..which you can all imagine how pleasant that was for me. I emailed KH about it and she requested that I call her, but I wasn’t (and am still not) overly comfortable giving her my phone number at that point.

 

Other than that, I’ve talked to Blythe a little bit about the situation as well as some pretty close friends in the blogging community who know bits and pieces but are close enough to have kept quiet about it. I’m still a little in shock and more than a little betrayed. Mostly, I’m in shock since I’m directly in the middle and completely flabbergasted that this happened.

 

I’d like to thank all of you for defending us and protecting the blogging community. What happened was absolutely horrifying and I can’t even imagine how Blythe must be feeling right now or even a few days ago. I would like to encourage everyone to tone it down just a little bit. This is already intense enough at the moment and I know that I personally want it to just die down a little bit. I know that steps are going to be taken, but other than that, I’m not going to share anymore details.

 

I feel like I just wrote a book, but I also know that I just grossly fascinated all of you. This is my statement. I know that you all are very curious and upset about this whole situation, but I would like to ask all of you to respect my space and privacy during this confusing time.

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