In the lead up to Valentine’s Day yaReads is talking all things LOVE. In love, out of love or not a fan of love, we’re hearing from different people every day to get their thoughts on the touchy feely subject.
Mj first met her boyfriend when they were still in high school. After being friends for a while they soon started dating. Not too long ago their three year relationship came to a mutual end. Break ups are never easy but if there was ever a person to handle it with total class, it would be Mj.
With her first solo Valentine’s Day coming up, she shares her thoughts on a difficult subject…
Now that you’re single how do you feel about Valentines day?
Being single, Valentine’s Day doesn’t have that special or important feel to it at the moment because there’s no one to share the day with. It’s just a reminder of something that I once had (a partner/relationship) and what i don’t have anymore.
How does it compare to what you used to think about it when you were in a relationship?
I’d always seen Valentine’s Day as a day spent with the one you love, and for the past 3 years that’s what I did. I loved picking the perfect card or little presents for my Valentine as well as spending the day with them.
What’s the best thing about being single?
New found freedom in regards to how you can spend your time and who you choose to spend that time with. Being independent and also becoming your own person (rediscovering who you are).
What’s the hardest thing about breaking up?
The feelings and emotions involved would definitely be one of the hardest things, because you know that the reason for their tears, their fears and heart break is because of you (and vice versa). The process of hurting, being angry, crying and even doubting whether the break up was best thing for both of you is also rough.
Do you have advice for someone who’s going through a break up?
– Surround yourself with people who care about you like family, your best friend and friends as well as a tub of ice cream
– Allow yourself some time to cry and grieve over the relationship
– Find distractions to keep your mind off of things, whether it is a hobby/past time or even spending time with friends.
– The break up process will be hard and your judgments will be clouded by sad/emotional feelings so remember the decision and reasons for your break up.
Do you agree with – “Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all?”
Thanks Mj! Some very good advice there to consider.
Going through a break up can be tough, but a good book can definitely help get you through it
The Peril of Magnificent Love & The Gorgeous Sense of Hope, both by Emma Magenta – These books may be difficult to get a hold of but they are adorable. They’re illustrated and seem like a children’s picture book but the message they tell will reach right to your heart. Very sweet and very helpful for those going through a rough patch in love.
The Boyfriend List by E. Lockhart
He’s Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt & Liz Tuccillo – Now this book I don’t think is right about everything, but some things….it really is. It’s worth a read and worth keeping some parts of it in mind. Particularly the first few chapters.
Vampire Academy by Richelle Mead – When you’re going through a break up sometimes it helps to read a book with a kick ass female lead and for that, Rose Hathaway is your girl.
Obernewtyn by Isobelle Carmody – Want a book that will take your mind faaaaar off any sort of romance/drama/break up business? Then this series is for you. Obernewtyn is the first in the series and I LOVE these books. They might take a while to get into, but well worth it.