laurenb
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Long distance relationships
Well recently ive been starting to date a guy who lives in different state of Australia, and im meeting him in a couple of weeks, for the first time.
Im really nervous because i think that once i spend time with him in real life i wont want to go back to just chatting online and over the phone, like
it wont be enough for me 
Ive never experienced long distance dating before and im curious to hear if anyone else has ever been in this kind of sitiuation and id love to hear
their experiences etc. Also if anyone has some advice feel free to jump in 
I had a dream, i put my hands inside my chest and held my heart, to try to keep it still.
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jennibear8504
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As cliché as this may sound, if its meant to be it will...
When I first started talking to my now husband, he was in Iraq and I was home in the U.S. We talked for months, on the phone and online. When he came
home we had been talking for about 6 months and we wanted to meet each other. So we did, I was so beyond nervous, I couldn’t sleep or eat or anything
like that. I was afraid things were going to change and that maybe it wouldn’t be a good. But I was wrong, it was great. For the first 2 1/2 years we
were together we were long distances (and may once again become long distance in the future, who knows…). We only got to see each other a couple of
times a year for only a few days at a time. In away it made us stronger. We always talked everything out, we knew each other better than we could have
if we had seen each other everyday, and we really communicated.
It really depends on the couple. Some people cant do long distance and some can. Its all a matter of making it work for you…
Good Luck! If you have any other advice on this please let me know, I’ll try to help as much as I can.
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Nichole0390
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First, I have to say that you need to be extremely careful. I don't know how old you are, or how long you've been talking to this guy, but you need to
take someone with you when you meet him for the first time. Truth is, there are a lot of creepers out there. No matter how normal they sound, it could
just be a show.
Second, long distance relationships are very hard. Let me stress this...VERY VERY VERY hard. I wish they all turned out like Jen...trust me I do
because she is extremely happy with her husband. However, from first hand experience I am telling you that it takes dedication and hard work. It's not
something you can breeze through or something you should go into thinking is easy. It's not.
The best advice I can give you, besides being safe, is that sometimes being just friends is for the best. If it's meant to happen, then it's meant to
happen. However, it's a really big commitment, and it can lead to a lot of heartbreak.
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jennibear8504
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Nichole is right about everything...
I lucked out that my husband, happen to be a friend of my sister, and she vouch for him. Also we met on mutual ground... somewhere were either one of
us could have backed out if need be...
Long distance does take more work that a normal relationship... Not everyone is cut out to be in a long distance relationship… You have to trust the
other person, and communication is the most important thing...
Being safe is the biggest thing too... Be very careful!
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laurenb
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thank you so much for your adivce <33 Safety isnt really an issue as we have mutual friends and are both adults in our 20's. We have also planned
to meet in a public place with our friends i really appreciated your concern
tho! Jenni thats so great everything has worked out so perfectly for you, that has really given me hope that it is possible.
I also really believe that if somethings meant to happen it will, thats why i really just want to meet him face to face and see what eventuates. Even
if we dont get involved romantically i know he will remain a great friend.
I really think we do have a connection tho, and due to the distance we communicate so much with eachother, we tell eachother everything! in my past
relationships the lack of communication has always been an issue, and that was when we saw eachother 5 times a week :P
Thanks again for your advice, i know its going to be hard but i really want to just meet him and see how it goes, or else i know ill regret never
giving it a chance.
Ill keep you posted! <33
I had a dream, i put my hands inside my chest and held my heart, to try to keep it still.
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